“When we talk to girls, they often experience it as us talking at them, and they not only stop listening, they stop thinking and reflecting. We need to keep an open dialogue — we can’t dismiss their chatter about ups and downs of friendship as trivial, and then expect them to talk to us about the important stuff,” says Lawrence Cohen, Ph.D., co-author of Mom, They’re Teasing Me.
41.Children, of any age, may be hesitant to spend time with a parent for a variety of reasons. Both parents should encourage the child to go with the other parent.
You should give your children a set of rules to follow. They should also know there will be consequences to breaking those rules. While your children may not immediately realize it, one day they will realize and appreciate the fact that you took the time to create rules because you care about them. Having a set of rules in place will also make the job of parenting easier for yourself, as well as your partner.
16.Each parent must establish and maintain his or her own relationship with the children. Neither of you should act as a mediator between the children and the other parent. And, neither of you should act as the defense attorney, presenting a child’s case to the other parent.
Take your values and a make a list of them. Sit down with your teen and begin to communicate these with him or her. Have them understand the value behind the rule. You will probably even find that some of your house rules have no value behind them. Those are the rules where parents always say, “because I said so, that’s why you’re doing it”. But, why are they doing it? They want to know why. They want to know the value behind it, and your teen deserves to know the values that their parents operate in.
Hand gestures can aid in disciplining your child when all other methods are failing. This is a non-verbal way of warning your child when he is behaving inappropriately, and it will give him a chance to change his behavior before you carry out a discipline.
11. Avoid using body language, facial expressions or other subtleties to express negative thoughts and emotions about the other parent. Your child can read you!